Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the LORD your God is giving you. (ESV)
First 4 Commandments– Our Vertical Relationship
Second 6 – Our Horizontal Relationships
- KEY WORD IS RELATIONSHIPS
Foundation commandment for 1-4 is 1.
Foundational commandment for 5-10 is 5.
God has placed authority over us
- Rom 13:1-7 – The govt.
- Titus 3:1 – Submissive to rulers and authorities.
- 1 Peter 2:13 – Be subject for the Lord’s sake to every human institution
- Heb. 13:7, 17 – within the church
- 1 Peter 5:5 – Younger men with older men
- Deut 21:18-21
- Ex. 21:15 & 17
- Eph 5:1,15-17, 22-6:4
Acts 5:29-32 – WE ALWAYS OBEY GOD RATHER THAN MAN.
Honor your father and mother as your Lord your God commanded you
Honor – Weight and Glory. Reverence, Respect and Obedience.
- AND THEIR GOD PLACED AUTHORITY OVER OUR LIFE
- Based on POSITION not PERFECTION
That your days may be long, that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you
Why should we honor out parents?
Ephesians 6:1–4 –  Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise),  “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.
Colossians 3:20 – Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
- SO THAT IT WILL GO WELL…IT IS RIGHT…IT PLEASES THE LORD
GO WELL WITH YOU IN THE LAND
- So goes THIS…So goes THAT
- Home – Church – Society
Our FOUNDATION for living in society is developed at HOME
STRENGTHENED at CHURCH
LIVED out in Society
IF I HONOR THEM…MY LIFE IS BLESSED. It is a sign…THAT I GET IT
- Spiritual Maturity
- Growing and Changing in the Likeness of the Lord Jesus Christ
RELATIONSHIPS -RELATIONSHIPS – RELATIONSHIPS
SO MUCH IS TAUGHT AND LEARNED WITHIN THE HOME
- Love and care for one another
- What about true sacrifice
- How to respect authority and guidance over our life
- Learn how to work through issues (proper/biblical reconciliation)
- Trusting in others
- The blessing of submission and obedience
If you cannot show honor in your earthly relationships, you will not be able to show honor in your heavenly ones.
Kevin DeYoung (The 10 Commandments)
4 Words that help us honor our parents
- Prompt and cheerful obedience.
- Say it.
- Being a person of gratitude
I am sorry
- VERY IMPORTANT WORDS FOR ALL RELATIONSHIPS
- This really hits home as we get older.
- TALK WITH THEM
- Engage with them
DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO NOW, BECAUSE YOU CANNOT GO BACK!
REMEMBER…TO HONOR OUR PARENTS IS TO HONOR THE LORD
Romans 13:1–7 –  Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.  Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment.  For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval,  for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.  Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God’s wrath but also for the sake of conscience.  For because of this you also pay taxes, for the authorities are ministers of God, attending to this very thing.  Pay to all what is owed to them: taxes to whom taxes are owed, revenue to whom revenue is owed, respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed. (ESV)
Titus 3:1–11 –  Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work,  to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.  For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another.  But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared,  he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit,  whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior,  so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.  The saying is trustworthy, and I want you to insist on these things, so that those who have believed in God may be careful to devote themselves to good works. These things are excellent and profitable for people.  But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless.  As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him,  knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned. (ESV)
1 Peter 2:13–17 –  Be subject for the Lord’s sake to every human institution, whether it be to the emperor as supreme,  or to governors as sent by him to punish those who do evil and to praise those who do good.  For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people.  Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God.  Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor. (ESV)
Hebrews 13:7 – Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God. Consider the outcome of their way of life, and imitate their faith. (ESV)
Hebrews 13:17 – Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you. (ESV)
1 Peter 5:5 – Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (ESV)
Ephesians 5:1 – Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. (ESV)
Ephesians 5:15–17 –  Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,  making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.  Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. (ESV)
Ephesians 5:22–6:4 –  Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,  that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,  so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.  In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,  because we are members of his body.  “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”  This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.  However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise),  “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”  Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (ESV)
Colossians 3:20 – Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. (ESV)