Rom 12:14-21 – Getting along with others

Romans 12:14–21

Living with those on the outside

Not part of the body. Our enemies

[14] Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. [15] Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. [16] Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. [17] Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. [18] If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. [19] Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but y it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” [20] To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” [21] Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (ESV)

Bless those that persecute you – v. 14

Bless those

  • Speak well of
  • It takes steps of action
  • TAKE steps of action to be kind
  • Not attack – Not tear down

Rejoice and Weep with others – v. 15


  • True joy, not fake joy. Not envy joy.
  • Be glad that people may have what you may want


  • Sensitive to the disappointment of others.
  • Luke 19:41-44. A concern for their condition


Live in harmony and humility – v. 16

  • Do not be partial
  • Avoid haughtiness/associate with humble
  • Do not be wise in your own eyes


Live above reproach – v. 17

Never return evil for evil

1 Peter 3:8–9 – [8] Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. [9] Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing (ESV)

Respect what is right

  • Right – pleasing to God, beneficial to others


Live in peace with everyone – v. 18

  • Never compromising the truth of scripture, but willing to go the extra mile.
  • Do what you know God would have you do


Give no place for revenge – v. 19-21


  • Never avenge yourself – Leave it to God
  • Overcome evil with good
  • Heaping coals upon his head (carrying around a pan of coals on your head… shame over your guilt)
  • To NOT do something is one thing (I will not avenge)
  • TO DO something is another (do something for them)

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